Challenge Your Worry

Worrying is NOT work and worrying doesn’t work towards fixing what you’re worried about. Our brain loves to lie to us and say that worrying is productive, but truthfully it often just leaves us less mentally and emotionally capable of addressing what we are actually worried about. 1. Is worrying helping or hurting my capacity […]

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Back to Life

A few months ago I heard a story about the life of Esther Perel, a notable sex therapist.  (Don’t worry, this post is not nearly as tantalizing or scandalous as it now sounds like it’s going to be…)  Esther’s parents met at the end of World War II after spending five years in concentration camps.  They

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When Sexual Shame Comes Knocking on Your Bedroom Door

Sexuality is complicated. It develops over a lifespan and is influenced by many factors: parents, friends, teachers, school, church, healthcare, media, morality, and American culture. All of these influences either gave you an…
  Explicit message (“Don’t have sex before marriage” or “Masturbation is a normal biological urge”) Implicit message (You pick up an unspoken rule

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The Power of Pause

How good are you at taking time to just slow down, relax, and not do a thing? What kind of feelings does Or, do you feel the need to be busy doing something? “Though the sacred art of pausing, we develop the capacity to stop hiding, to stop running away from our own experience. We

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